Donna Williams is an autistic woman who was bullied as a kid. When interviewed by Anna Kennedy and asked, "How do you stop bullying in mainstream schools and in the community?" part of her answer was this:

"Why do we presume that constantly inflating people’s egos is the best motivator? Why do we fixate on who is winning, superior, gorgeous, exceptional, most talented, fashionable? Why do we rely on and promote extrinsic rewards? Why do we encourage children to identify with their expensive goods, their clothing brands, the hair style/tattoo/piercing they have, the drink can they prefer? Why do we emphasise heros instead of becoming the person we could most trust? Why do we overvalue pride and specialness and and confuse it with self esteem which comes with integrity, humility, a sense of our own equality?"

I love her answer.

Link to her blog post: http://blog.donnawilliams.net/2011/04/06/autism-and-bullying/